Why hypocritical Christians have pushed me from religion

Although I wasn’t an avid church-goer as I grew up, I was raised a Christian. I went to a private Episcopal school for first through eighth grade and prayed often.

I was taught to love others and to “treat others how you wish to be treated”. I was taught that God loves everybody equally and unconditionally. Yet, as I grew older, I realized that many of his followers don’t practice what they preach.

We all know about the hateful Christians and Baptists who show up at gay pride parades with horrible signs, but there are many religious people who practice hate even without signs.

I first started to doubt my Christian religion when I learned that many believe Jesus was actually Middle-eastern. In the predominately White churches that I grew up in, sculptures and paintings of a pale White Jesus scattered the Church walls. It seemed to me that White people were attempting to claim and mold a religion to benefit themselves and their race. They wanted their God to be White, not Middle-eastern. It was from this moment that I started to doubt the integrity and inclusion of this so-called religion.

There are too many Christians who believe they are doing “the Lord’s work”, when in reality they are spreading hate on those who do not fit into their God’s “perfect picture”. They are deliberately fear-mongering those who are not religious.

Many Trump supporters use religion and God to support their political beliefs and reasons for supporting the president. Even Trump himself has used God and religion to support his actions and political agenda. Yet, isn’t America supposed to support freedom of religion? Should there be religion in presidential discourse?

Religion is supposed to be a personal choice; it shouldn’t influence who you vote for nor should a president use it to attract voters and pressure an entire nation.

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Conservative Christians use religion to control those around them. They are not only spreading the word of God; they are spreading their moral and political beliefs and expecting you to live up to their standards.

For example, many Christians implicitly suggest when they disapprove of how women dress, speak or act. For example, if a women is showing cleavage in Church, or anywhere for that matter, many Christian men and women would most likely stare with “expressions of disapproval”. If a women cusses, Christians would certainly express disapproval whereas if a man cusses, the reaction would most likely be different. The bottom line is, if God loves everyone unconditionally and made everyone equal, why are there so many insinuations and judgements from Christians when someone is straying from the political conservative side? Clearly many Christians are involving their political values and beliefs into their religion.

When you vote for Donald Trumpyou are supporting institutionalized racism, sexism, homophobia, and ageism, because he himself is sexist, racist, homophobic and ageist. Do you really think your God, who is supposed to be light and love, would approve?

I don’t want to believe in the same God you believe in. So I chose to believe in my own type of God. One that is loving, accepting and open-minded. One that doesn’t give rules as to who someone can love and who they can’t; one that doesn’t dictate that men are more powerful than women. My God is full of love and does not wield an ounce of hate. She is unconditionally loving, judging nobody no matter their race, gender, sexual orientation, abilities or age. My god is love. What is yours?

Your hatred comes from fear

You are afraid. Of many things. You may also be confused on why I am saying this. And you don’t want to hear it; you don’t want to keep reading. You are uncomfortable, maybe even a little angry and bothered. But, for the sake of your own self-revelation, I suggest you keep reading.

Have you ever wondered why you have so much hate, indifference, disgust, disapproval, or disassociation with other people who are different than you? And maybe you don’t know why? Or if you do, do other people think your reasons are ignorant, or maybe crazy?

In this article, I am going to specify the type of hatred, as unfortunately there are many people who harbor hatred towards many different things (age, gender, language, disability…etc). We are going to talk about the hatred people like you hold towards people of other ethnicities. Yes, I am talking about racism.

Maybe you rolled your eyes, maybe you didn’t. Either way, if somebody sent you this article — it most likely applies to you. If you did roll your eyes, well, then it definitely applies to you.

I want you to know that your hatred does not make you look strong, better, or simply someone who is just “proud” of their heritage. It makes you look weak, afraid, sensitive and angry. You are so angry, scared and full of hate inside that you don’t know how to handle it. And why?

Because you can’t handle that you are wrong. That you are a hateful and ignorant person. That you are not in the 1800s and your race is soon to be overpowered by people of other races. You are angry that people call you racist, when deep down you know that you are. Or, maybe you say you are racist loud and proud.

You so badly want to be in control, to be powerful, to be accepted and in turn you don’t accept people of other races; you use your words and actions to minimize and bully others for simply being different because secretly you hate yourself. You hate that you are so insecure that you use your physical complexion to esteem your power. You hate your hate, and you love it for making you feel and look powerful. But guess what? It doesn’t.

It. makes. you. look. weak.

Your love for power, for White supremacy, and for being superior has made you the monster that you are, whether people see you for that or not.

Maybe these views were instilled on you since you were younger, through generations upon generations of racist ancestors. Given the USA’s history, that is a highly plausible situation. Yet, you seem to not have made any effort to stray away from your families lineage of hate and racist ideology. You are a follower, and that makes you feel comfortable.

My advice to you is, get uncomfortable.

We are not in the 19th century anymore, not even the 20th. There are a huge number of us who love diversity and people of all ethnicities, sexual orientations, religions, genders and everything in-between.

We will not stop loving people who are different, so if you are to be a part of this world, I can promise you this — your hate will be outnumbered. People like you will be outnumbered.

Your race is not the “supreme race”, and you are upset that people know that now.

You see, people like you are unhappy at core. Hateful people aren’t happy, and happy people aren’t hateful.

So, you should try looking in the mirror. What do you see? Are you truly happy with your hate? Do you like what you see? Who are the people in your life around you? Do they all look like you? Do you have any friends who are different?

If not, that must make for a boring, culturally limited life. I personally pride myself on the amount of diversity I have in my life. I have gotten to know and understand the world so much better just by being around different cultures. In fact, none of my friends even remotely look like me. I am the only White woman in my friend group.

What about you?

Start questioning yourself, start loving yourself, start working on uncovering why you have so much hate inside of you for other people. Because at the end of the day, we are all just souls and our physical traits are nothing but furniture.

How straight White males can help change the world

You may think — what an interesting title considering most of the revolutionary figures who have had an influential impact on human rights challenges in history have been people of color. Yet, in this world where racism is as prevalent as ever, I think it’s beyond time more White people step up to the plate and use their place in society to provoke change.

Straight White males are the least discriminated against in society and they hold a lot of power and influence over this nation. Males don’t face sexism; Straight males don’t face homophobia; White males don’t face racism.

So, when you combine all of those attributes of a person, they have life pretty damn easy as far as lack of discrimination and heightened privilege go.

My theory is, if more straight White males would stand up for minority communities that are affected by discrimination and hate, wouldn’t other straight White males who are the root cause of a lot of the hate be more susceptible to listen? Because, clearly their sexism, homophobia and racism make them unwilling to listen to any women, LGBTQ people, or people of color.

So, straight White males — please stand up. Use your voice. Use your privilege. When you are surrounded by your White colleagues who are racist, homophobic or sexist, speak up for those communities and engage them in conversation. Make them listen.

Use your privilege and power in society to give a voice to those communities who have no voice.

I know that it can be scary and uncomfortable to talk about inequality, oppression and discrimination — especially as a straight White man. But, the reason why it’s so scary… is because no one talks about it. You’re worried that you’ll be judged and attacked, or possibly offend people who are affected by discrimination. So you avoid it. You play it safe.

Some of you feel that people are making all straight White men out to be complete monsters, who are all racist, homophobic and sexist. But, for one, why do you care so much about what others think of you? And secondly, nobody said “ALL” men; we are talking about SOME. Stop playing the victim, because you are far from one.

We know that most of you are not being sexist, homophobic or racist, but that’s just it…we need to talk about the ones that are.

Just because you may be one of the “good guys”, doesn’t mean we need to ignore the rest of the straight White men who are not “good guys”, simply to preserve your reputation and ego.

And even if you are one of the “good guys”, if you are not speaking up and using your privilege to shine a light on oppressed communities, that kind of makes you a participant in systematic discrimination anyways…so, you should start speaking up now.

Besides, if you did care about ridding our world of sexism, racism and homophobia, you would truly not give a damn what people say about straight White men…in fact, you would agree. Let’s not forget that I am a White women, yet I completely agree and don’t get all “sensitive and offended” when people speak truth on the hate coming from White people. Oh, I mean…some White people. Hope I didn’t offend.

To sum it up, 
Straight White men: speak up, or shut up.